Happiness in Life is Being Positive
That magical word that we all strive to attain, that no diamonds can buy, that cannot be measured on a scale and yet is what everyone strives for according to some is ‘happiness’. What is happiness? Is it a feeling of being content, glad, satisfied, pleasured or just a mix of chemical reactions and serotonin that may happen in our brains. Well, then why has someone not yet invented a happiness pill yet? Well, if there was one I bet the world will be a better place to live in with many happy people who got the ‘happiness pill’.
For one thing, I believe happiness is something that we feel when we are at peace with ourselves and also that it needs nourishment. It does not happen overnight, and one fine morning we can’t wake up and say that, “Ok, today I am going to find happiness”. Well, let me throw some insight at what happiness in life means to me.
It starts way back…
Ever since I was a child, I was a simple, not so demanding, no tantrums but happy person. I always felt that being happy is being positive about everything. My favorite quote is “Stop existing and start living”. Through my academic years and youth I did find many ups and downs in life but never ever gave up. My mother is my ideal for being positive and upbeat in my life even in the face of hardest of the times. My positivity comes from the fact that I believe every night has a dawn ahead. She taught me that no crisis, no hardship, no problem can take away your happiness if you are a positive person. That’s how I have seen her all through my life and is still my strength.
At work, my exuberance and chirpiness did make a lot of my colleagues and superiors often wonder what I was being happy about when work was stressful. Well, the truth is since my childhood I have learnt to be happy in small things in life. I did not aim to become a million and have stacks of cash in my bank account. So, with an accomplishment in university education, a decent job and a caring husband I could not ask for more.
Until, I got a diagnosis of breast cancer. I cried a lot and for the first time in my life I despaired and was unhappy. Why me? I wondered for a few days. That’s all and I bounced back in my positivity mode and made a plan with my doctor. I did feel positive and had faith in her. This washed away all the unhappiness and I realized that life is giving me one more chance.
My cancer diagnosis is actually the beginning of a new way of life for me. I have actually started to relive each moment in my life and realized that the flowers are prettier than I thought and the sky is bluer than I imagined. I feel that the air I breathe is filled with some mystery scent and even the lawn mower does not annoy me anymore.
Being positive at all times is not easy if you try to do it intentionally
Sometimes I feel it is a genetic disposition when I look at my mother. But there are ways I bring positivity around me by bringing a smile to others. Simple acts of holding the elevator for that person who you already saw running frantically or offering to help an elderly person cross the intersection are all day to day events that are so common to me but those very acts of kindness instills positivity in me.
I am a firm believer of what goes around, comes around and so I brew happiness with positivity concoction and that works for me. Now, whenever I go for my doctor’s appointment or for grocery shopping I surprise those who know me by my cheerfulness and positivity, even in this medical condition. I believe that this time too shall pass and there is something better in store for me and my family. Even cooking up a meal that turns out delicious and gets me a compliment from my husband makes me feel positive and happy.
Giving and sharing with family and friends as well as strangers means a lot when they let you know that they like having you around them. Children are also a great source of positivity and my nephews mean the world to me. So I believe that happiness in life is being positive and it automatically makes life much more worthwhile.